The Gift of Insight
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Give yourself the gift of insight.
Clear your head.
Forget what you know.
Listen deeply to the quiet.
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How willing are we to listen to the Silence? To listen to the quietness inside the cacophony of our own thinking?
Learning occurs mostly from the outside-in, utilizing the intellect to store more memory. A very good and useful practice to be sure. Growth, on the other hand, is more of an inside-out process, a process we allow to unfold us: without toil, without spinning – through stillness, from Center to circumference.
It requires a type of deep listening, a listening to what we don’t know, to a realm of creative mystery which is the realm of genius. It requires the willingness to be uncomfortable in not knowing, in not having an answer: a “growth” mindset.
In being willing to stand in this Silence of not knowing, Infinite Intelligence reveals to us the answer to the question we have brought, the solution to the problem with which we are wrestling.
Such is the beauty and possibility of a problem.
How do they grow? And unfold in such Beauty? How do we grow? What beauty within us will unfold?
“Crane,” 2007 | Painting By: Laura Basha
Finding the words which capture your personal purpose expresses the essence of each individual. Since personal purpose is articulated through one’s own languaging, it is distinguished from a deep listening of what one is truly aligned with, committed to, and passionate about.
Once articulated, the capacity for a person to harness focused intention and power, and align that with a larger purpose, is exponentially increased. The result is an inherently synchronized person inspired to learn and grow, who is infused with the vitality of self-actualization. Such Self-perception cannot be underestimated in terms of Its capacity to produce extraordinary results.
A life of freedom, joy, and authenticity is yours to choose. Jump in and trust yourself. The greatness, whether quiet or noticeable, that you have always hoped you were but were afraid that you weren’t, unfolds.
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During the mid-1990s while I was practicing teaching the Inward Outlook in my coaching private practice as well as in my professional life as a public speaker, trainer, and consultant, I was also interning as a psychology doctoral candidate. In the clinic where I worked, my colleagues and I partnered in pairs, co-leading fifteen schizophrenic patients five hours each day, three to five days a week.
The psychiatrist who was the medical director of our clinic for the county’s most challenging persistently mentally ill patients, became quite frustrated with me for being so “idealistic” with my patients. He said I was not reality-based enough to be able to assist them. I replied as respectfully as I could that perhaps he was right, but my perspective was to see the possible best in every patient in order to elicit the same from them, in spite of their presentation. I can see in retrospect that, essentially, this was an expression of my authentic personal purpose, not yet articulated but available for my patients: “Free from the limitations of the past, profoundly present…”
I had a patient (whom I will call Elaine) who was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, and who had been in a board and care home for some time after her family determined they could not care for her. She was in her late thirties. Her speech was very pressured – intense and staccato – and for the first several sessions she repeated the same litany, intensely staring at the floor during the whole communication, about how people were trying to find her, knowing they would jump out of the bushes on her walk home and feeling terrified they would kill her. She had evidently told this fear to all her previous therapists, including her psychiatrist, who all told her this fear was ungrounded, a fabrication and delusion of her illness. It struck me, after listening to her repetition of this fear for several sessions, that no one who treated her had actually ever validated her concerns or really listened to her.
Now Elaine aspired to finishing high school, getting her GED, and living on her own. Her psychiatrist told her that that would never happen, and that she would never get any better than her current state of mental health.
On my third session with Elaine, I decided to listen to her fears from the stance of possibility. Horrible things do happen to people; people are victims of crime and do get ambushed and harmed sometimes for no reason. So I said to her, “Elaine, I believe you, that this is possible.” This stopped her in her tracks. She looked up at me for the first time in three sessions, mouth open, in wonder. “I believe you,” I repeated. “This type of situation could happen.” I let this sink in.
For the first time, Elaine stopped telling her story and listened attentively. “But here’s the problem,” I said. “You are thinking about this happening so much that you never let yourself have a moment of peace. And the fact is, it hasn’t happened to you at this point. So what if you were to stop paying so much attention to the fear of it happening, and started paying attention to what you are interested in having happen?” I went on to say that if something frightening did happen, which could happen to any one of us, that she would have to deal with it at the time – but in the meantime, she could actually begin to enjoy her life and start to create the life experience she wanted.
Elaine never brought up that litany again. Over the next six months, we worked together an hour a week; and when our time together was complete, Elaine had moved out of the board and care home, was living on her own, and was once again seeing her father on a weekly basis, going out with him for hamburgers and milkshakes. When I asked about her six months after our work was done, I was told she had begun studying for her GED.
I never read the clinical reports on my patients until after I met with them, because I didn’t want my initial assessment to be contaminated by the previous clinicians’ diagnoses. As a result of allowing myself to “not know,” I was able to perceive possibilities with these patients that very likely wouldn’t have occurred to me had I beforehand assumed the reality of accepted clinical diagnoses and reports. Of course, I read the reports later, but I had by then been able to bring my own fresh perspective to whatever diagnosis was written, thereby achieving some very unusually positive results with patients diagnosed as people who would never improve.
Interestingly enough, my work with these patients was so effective – their mental health, social skills, and community participation so improved – that a year later, the same medical director who had earlier been so frustrated with me, requested supervision from me with his patients on my particular methodology. And he asked for coaching on the IO approach.
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What is “rest”, then?
To be free of thoughts that have limited and bound us, to have the peace of nothing on our minds to distract us from the serenity of emptiness, which is scintillating with the One Substance waiting to express through us as us, either in form or as radiation. And to rest here without thought of life experience is to experience Life uninterpreted by humanity. This is Freedom, this is Rest, this is returning Home and remembering that Everything is All Right. This is the quietness of knowing, in which there is no motivation to act, for one is at one with the Source. To act implies doing something for some result. What result is there to desire when all one’s desires are fulfilled where one is?
True rest, then, is true action. It is a choice to live in the consciousness of Source, the no thing out of which all things come.
This little book is close to my heart. I think it holds for us today the direction in which we are being asked to go. Uncluttered. Unadorned. Steering clear of esoteric and lofty teachings or anything difficult to understand. Of course, in order to do this and live in Truth one has to know Truth and have It as integrated into one’s being as is the breath, and then even deeper. The most ordinary is the most sublime.
The monastery must now be within. We must learn to live in our desert while we walk in the world. It is time for the mystic in us all to step forth and greet each other. If there is another conscious mystic behind the eyes of the one we look at, we will see her, and he will recognize us, and there will be no need for words. And if the mystic behind the eyes into which we look is not conscious, we will smile with an ordinary kindness and will leave them a bit happier because it really doesn’t matter. To live in “rest” is the true task, and after that, the work is done through us, with or without form.
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1) One benefit to writing down a list like this is that it frees us from the intellect, in that we don’t have to remember what we’re supposed to remember since we’ve captured it on a list, which allows us to be completely present to the thing at hand.
2) The intellect is an extraordinary computer tool. That said, there are no new answers from the intellect; every thought from the intellect is from the past.
3) As we learn not to take things personally, we maintain our sense of well-being and are better able to contribute to others. Our ability to not take things personally is directly relational to our experience of freedom.
4) Learning to transmute what has happened to us in the past, through nonjudgmental compassionate understanding, is a way to be free of the limitations such experiences seem to impose.
5) Learning to forget what we know, or think we know, within the context of an authentic inquiry, is a way to allow the natural state of Oneness, manifesting as genius and the miraculous, to express through us.
6) Everything manifests and evolves from Center to circumference.
7) We are all masters in our own universe. This mastery is either conscious or unconscious. It is our differing levels of understanding the Law of Thought (how thought creates our life experience) that distinguishes how awake we are to this mastery.
8) All action in the third dimension is a re-action to the true action of thought.
9) There is only one problem, though it takes many guises, and this is the thought of being separate from Source. We are sourced from the Belonging.
10) Be. Here. Now. There is one solution to the many variations of the one problem. This solution is to let go of attachment to personal thought, gift ourself to be profoundly present, and remember who we truly are.